Baloney!

"Enjoy love when you are young because, love is not the same when you get older." Yep I told you we would be revisiting this quote over again.

Anyway my cousin thinks otherwise: "... to that thing about your religion teacher's comment -- I think it's total baloney. Love and being romantic is a life-long treasure. It gives meaning, it provides context on why you feel the way you feel, and why you view the world as you do. The older you get, sure, love and romanticism become less 'innocent' if you will, perhaps even less 'zesty.' But, love, and the quest for it, and the joy of growing it, remains, a most worthwhile adventure. Only, with more years logged in, I propose 2 possibilities -- (a) one gets more insight into himself or herself and so the love-search is more honed, more choosy and therefore, less apt to being open to other stuff that he or she would have dived into as a younger person -- this is not a bad thing, just that it takes more time for things to germinate; (b) one becomes disillusioned because he/she is not open to the quest, he/she would rather stay put in his/her current emotional state -- so a staleness sets in.

My own thought is option (a) might be a journey that exposes one's emotional vulnerabilities, and that could drive you batty at times, but totally ultimately leads to meaningful human connection and really...nourishment for the soul."

This quest he mentions is crucial. Relationsips are work and if you don't want to put in the work then guess what it's probably not gonna work out. In group today we talked about process I'm sure in relationships it's the same thing. It takes steps and it's a never ending journey trying to get to know another human being. But I what my cousin is saying that if you put in the work, it doesn't have to be that way. Accept the quest.